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Signs of Spirit
Signs of Spirit
In 2005, we became aware that even though spirit is invisible to the eye, it’s characteristics can be observed in ourselves and others.
Signs of Spirit are evidence of the existence of the unseen spirit. They are characteristics that can be observed in ourselves and others. Once known and recognized as coming from spirit, we can choose to activate and cultivate them in ourselves, thus living as spirits in daily life.
We call these characteristics “signs of spirit” because they demonstrate the presence of spirit, just as a heartbeat and breathing our “signs of life” for the body.
We have been writing first-person short stories about our experiences observiing signs of spirit in ourselves and others and also about how we intentionally use these spirit abiities in our daily lives.
Our intent in sharing these stories is to make it more kown in the world that spirit exists and exists in each and every human being in addition to all of Life. Perhaps our stories will inspire you to find these signs of spirit in yourself and others.
The Good Side of Anger
by Debra Redalia
This past week I had the opportunity to learn that anger can be a powerful positive force for good—something I didn’t know before. In our culture, there seems to be a lot of agreement that anger is a bad thing. Anger can be harmful and destructive, but there is another side of anger that can be productive and lead us to stand up for good—for ourselves and the world.
My realization started on Monday when Larry and I went to a big box store to buy a black steel garden chair. I had purchased one and Larry had been sitting in it so I said we better get another one so we can sit in the garden together and both be comfortable. So we went to buy the garden chair.
I also bought something else—I don’t remember what it was. So we had two separate purchases.
Larry went through the check-out first, and then decided to go to the eyeglass department while waiting for me to go through the check-out. I said I would meet him there.
The eyeglass department is in a separate room at the front of the store.
When I arrived, it was all blocked off with tables, and a gatekeeper (due to covid-19 guidelines). First, you had to allow them to take your temperature. If you didn’t have a fever and you were wearing a face mask and there were not more than the maximum allowable number of customers and staff in the room, then you could go in and shop.
The room was empty. No customers. Two staff. She would not let me in.
“We have CDC guidelines we need to follow,” she said.
I got really angry. I am not generally an angry person, but anger just flared up. There was no logical reason I couldn’t come in and look at eyeglass frames with Larry. I didn’t have a temperature, I was wearing a face mask, and there was nobody in the eyeglass department area except Larry and two staff.
But she would not let me in. She wouldn’t even take my temperature.
I should just add that every other time we have been in a line to go in a store, they count Larry and I as one and they let us in together.
So I waited. But this didn’t feel right to me.
Later when I got home I was considering how I could have handled this differently. And I realized that when she said she was following CDC guidelines I could have asked to see the guidelines in writing. I was sure that the CDC guidelines would not specify the number of people who could be in the space. They would say something like don’t allow more people in a space that would allow each one of them to be six feet apart. This woman wasn’t applying logic or actual CDC guidelines, though she was claiming she was.
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In the middle of that very night, I woke up with the thought, “I am enraged to act.” I felt so much anger that it was propelling me to want to act to set something right. The feeling was so strong I wanted to jump out of bed and do something.
The idea that anger could be a positive force was so foreign to me that I went online and began to look for more information about anger. And sure enough, I found that there is “bad anger” and “good anger.”
True anger is one of our fundamental emotions.It has purpose and value. It can lead us toward survival actions and propel us to action for our safety. It can result in improving ourselves as spiritual beings. It is especially valuable when we feel we are being dehumanized, manipulated, taken advantage of, suppressed or being led in the wrong direction. This type of anger is vital to acknowledge and express. When something is wrong and needs to be corrected, anger in the indicator that pushes us to take action.
But this natural, legitimate, healthy anger has gotten twisted into an anger that can be destructive and stifles personal development. In our culture, we say this type of anger needs to be “ managed" or “ controlled" as if it is a demon that needs to be kept in a cage. From my viewpoint, I would say this type of anger needs to be healed.
I feel so much relief from learning this. We have such a misunderstanding about anger in our culture—we seem to see only the harmful anger and not the life-supporting anger that guides us to make things right in our lives and in the world.
>Instead of resisting all anger, I now can look at anger in myself and others and evaluate if there is something that really needs to be corrected or if it’s reactive anger that needs to be healed.
I no longer immediately respond to anger as an attack, but rather I am now curious about anger. If someone is angry around me, I’m more inclined to ask them what is wrong than back away. If anger flares up in me, I want to know what I can change about myself. Anger is now a red flag waving, trying to get my attention so I can stop and take a look around to find what needs to be improved.
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Then on Thursday, Larry and I went back to this same store. He said he had an appointment to pick up his glasses, but that was a miscommunication. He actually had an eye exam. I thought we were going there for a few minutes. It turned out to be an hour.
This time we arrived together, holding hands, but they still wouldn’t let me in. Again, the department area was empty of customers. I tried to talk with the gatekeeper but she wouldn’t let me in.
Finally I said, “Could you show me the CDC guidelines?”
“Certainly,” she replied. “They are all at corporate headquarters and I can have them mailed to you. Or you could look them up online.”
I said, “No. If you are applying CDC guidelines, you should have a copy here that you can show me. I want to see the rules you are using that say I cannot come in with my husband.”
She had to go do something else, so that was the end of that conversation.
I walked around the big box store looking for a manager. I came back to the eyeglass area and a store manager actually walked right by.
I started talking to her and the gatekeeper came over and listened. We were standing right next to the rope that separated the two areas.
I explained what had happened and the store manager showed me the guidelines were posted on a signboard right there next to where we were standing. And I was right. It gave them the right to limit the number of customers, but said nothing about how many could be in the space or how to determine how many could be in the space. I have seen signs elsewhere that do state the specific number of people that are allowed in the space at any given time. But that was not the case here.
After I finished talking to the store manager, the gatekeeper came over and said Larry was having an eye exam, and while I couldn’t go into the eye exam room, when he came out she would let me into the main area while he made his purchase.
I learned a valuable lesson from this experience. If we allow ourselves to feel the anger that comes up, it can be a powerful indicator that something is amiss, giving us the opportunity to set right an injustice.
I feel good that I stood up for my rights and I learned to trust my anger.
I can see that I have much more to learn about anger, but this was an important piece. I no longer immediately respond to anger as an attack, but rather I am now curious about anger. If someone is angry around me, I’m more inclined to ask them what is wrong than back away.
Whew! I’m actually sitting here taking deep breaths and smiling. I’m ready to go on to the next lesson.
DEBRA REDALIA, Co-Founder of Spirits Bright, became aware she was a spiritual being when her body was six years old, but didn't learn much about what that meant until she met soulmate Larry Redalia twenty-six years later. Together they have helped each other discover the characteristics of spirit and put them into practice in daily life. Since 2005, Debra and Larry have been writing Signs of Spirit stories—first person accounts of their true life adventures as spiritual belings. The are co-founders of Spirits Bright and The Signs of Spirit Project.
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