Spirits Bright



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In 2017, for our 30th anniversary, we held a ceremony to commit to each other as soulmates.

Since this website is about spirit, and we are a couple, we just want to say a few words about soulmates.

Full disclosure...we have been together as a couple for more than 32 years. Larry likes to say, "We've been married more often than not." We have been married and divorced twice, but are still together and present ourselves to the world as husband and wife. We have the same last name because we've been married and Redalia is Debra's legal name, and we wear matching wedding rings, but we choose to not be legally married. For us, marriage is an agreement between two spirits to have a particular type of life together, and that happens spirit-to-spirit, not in a legal document. Obviously we are together as long as we both shall live.

In 2017, on our 30th anniversary of being together, we had a "soulmates ceremony" to commit to each other as spirits in a spirit-spirit relationship. We have a definition of what that means and we live by it.

The Merriam Webster dictionary defines a soulmate as

  1. a person who is perfectly suited to another in temperament
  2. a person who strongly resembles another in attitudes or beliefs

The also give the origin of the word:

The earliest known use of soul mate is found in an 1822 letter from English poet Samuel Taylor Coleridge to "a Young Lady" in which he writes, "To be happy in Marriage Life, nay … in order not to be miserable, you must have a Soul-mate as well as a House or a Yoke-mate…." The word yokemate is used to refer to someone who is figuratively yoked to another, such as a close associate or companion, or, as Coleridge uses the word, a spouse. Coleridge's advice to the recipient of his letter, then, is that she should not simply settle for a husband, but rather for a person whose character and sensibilities are of a nature suitable to her own. Soul mate is now often used by English speakers to describe those with whom our bonds of affection are marked by a strong sense of like-mindedness and intertwined affinities.


Many spiritual writers refer to soulmates as people we may have been associated with in other lifetimes, particularly in love relationships. The idea that love could transcend space and time and continue lifeltime after lifetime as lovers meet again is very romantic.

We refer to ourselves as soulmates, but for a different reason. While we do believe that spirits can have more than one lifetime and can continue relationships from lifetime to lifetime, we are focused on being spirits in everyday life in this lifetime.

For us, being soulmates begins with being aware we are spirits. What we call a "soulmates releationship" the union of two aware spirits who are having a relationship from the viewpoint of spirit. This could be any type of relationship. The key element is spiritual connection and living as spirits, regardless of the type of relationship you have.

Larry likes to say, "You have to have two souls to have soulmates."

And that's where Spirits Bright comes in. By developing yourself spiritually—becoming your own, true, authentic spirit self—you can then more form more harmonious relationships with other who are truly a match for you.

If you are interested, you can work with us  on creating a spirit-based relationship. Whether you are single and want to prepare for finding your soulmate or are in a relationship or even a long-term marriage, we would love to share with you what we've learned in 32 years of loving, Our relationship just gets better and better every day as we focus on creating more love and happiness and let go of whatever doesn't produce our highest good.


Good, the more communicated, more abundant grows.